Sunday, March 23, 2014
On Any Given Sunday
Today our family is celebrating my sister's birthday. Its not her true birth day, but we had to find some time that worked for a family of 13. This is not an easy task!
I have so many memories of her, like a river that flowed in and out of my small world, yet rippling larger than any other influence.
Relationships usually don't go as planned. Friendships you thought would be around forever suddenly disappear, parents who were to watch your children grown up suddenly die, marriages that were supposed to be built on a solid foundation suddenly crumble. I have been reminded of this more so lately as I have watched my own daughters suddenly appear all grown up and ready to begin their own lives. Lives that will keep me more in the peripheral, than knee deep in the mix. It went by so quickly, especially when they moved away with their dad for a few years as children. How hard that was. Being far apart, and not knowing how to pull them back. Not knowing how to reach out in separation and miles of wounds. Now, of course, I can see all the answers. I know what should have been done, but regrets won't bring back the moments. I wish I could impress on these two precious souls the importance of taking care in each moment. Don't let your spiritual guard down for a moment! Time will steal anything it can grab in the oblivious blinding of mundane living. Then I sit back and wonder if through all our family fragments, they understand this more profoundly than I ever did.
As I begin to move towards a new stream of living my own life, split from my sister, I am going through the same metamorphosis. I look around at the children I live with, and imagine not seeing their faces when I wake up or when I get home. I think of the late night giggles with Sistah, after everyone has gone to bed, that would then need to be done over the phone instead of around the kitchen island. There are the hugs after tearful revelations; someone next to me that just knows when I need a shoulder. How will I take all this into my own little world? Will there be holes where now these heart strings sing or will I find there will be other songs that show up? I don't believe I will ever lose this strain of my song. This has been my Still Point; the rest in my melody where I found my voice again. She has been my rest, even as we re-aligned into a new and loving relationship, groaning through some transitional periods. She has become the nurturing mother I had missed for so long after mine passed away and I felt bereft of foundation. Now I will "leave home", never forgetting, always returning to enjoy the bond I have forged.
Sunday, March 23
I realized I left this last post without putting it to blog. On any given Sunday I find myself drawn to this screen and the private couch of my thoughts. Sometimes it remains hanging, as I fall asleep in my life and forget to wake up to the delight of writing. Today I am back on the couch, warm beverage in hand, ready to remember why I first started writing; to find a safe landing where I can open up my imagination in food for thought. To dig deeper into life "behind the curtain". Maybe there needs to be more fun on the couch with belly laughs and quirky characters to enjoy? Maybe there should be more words about mystical tales, or time travel? Maybe historical accountings of long lost inheritance? I find there are so many ways to write down the imagination!
Who knows what these minutes of engaging SHOULD be! I only know what they land up being, and for that I am grateful, however they arrive. They are a gift. I look forward to opening them up on any given Sunday, and share them with anyone who may too want to enjoy a mindful rest on the couch.
Untel next time,